Regardless of why two people divorce, one thing is for certain, it is not the fault of the children. But they do have to deal with the disruption to their lives, the stress, and the two new directions that their parent's lives have taken. It is understandable that your children will be reluctant to open themselves up emotionally to a new person in their father's life. The initial introduction is often uncomfortable for everyone. Even if you do have custody, their mother can still be involved in their life and create further conflict.

It’s unfortunate, but it happens: a marriage doesn’t work out. In a best case scenario, the breakup is amicable and the two parties go their own ways, possibly with a separation. This is a legal proceeding whereby a married couple asks the court to end their marital obligations to one another. They are still technically married until they get divorced. However, this situation becomes more complex when children are involved.

Custody cases can be difficult for everyone involved and, often, particularly in Florida, courts tend to favor the mother in family cases. The truth is that custody is decided by what is in the best interest of your child or children. Having a job or not having a job should not be the deciding factor in any custody judgement, however, you may find that your ability or inability to financially provide for your children can be an important factor.

Divorce is going to affect the children involved. That is a fact that is inescapable. It is a basic instinct for kids to want their parents to be together. Even if they constantly see their parents fighting, they still want the two most important people in their lives to be nearby every day. Divorce changes the familiar dynamic that the child is accustomed to, which can majorly alter the world as the child knows it. For parents contemplating divorce, it is important to realize the impact the split will have on the kids. Managing this impact will help minimize its effects and make the transition a bit easier on the children.

Divorce can be heartbreaking and may make you focus on the ending of this stage in your life, but it can also be the beginning of a new chapter. Through all the pain and struggle, you will emerge from it a changed, and likely stronger person, thanks to the invaluable lessons that divorce will teach you. Here are 5 lessons that many divorced people have learned from their experiences.