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5 Tips for Dealing with an Irrational Ex-Spouse

Written by Kenny Leigh | Mon, Jan 27, 2014

When couples separate or file for divorce, they may go through a period of time when they just can’t get along. One spouse or both can become irrational and seemingly go out of her way to argue and cause problems for the former spouse. Unfortunately, this creates chaos and quite often emotional turmoil for all parties involved.

If you are struggling to get along with your ex-wife and feel overwhelmed, there are many things you can do to reduce this stress. By choosing a lawyer who represents men only in Ft. Walton divorce cases, men have discovered they can take legal action against an irrational spouse. Sometimes the only way to deal with never ending arguments is to let a judge settle them.

Kenny Leigh and Associates is a family law firm that represents men only in Jacksonville, Fleming Island, Daytona, Gainesville, Fort Walton Beach, and Boca Raton, serving all of North and South Florida.

Common Sources of Divorce Stress

Some of the most common arguments in a divorce are related to the fair division of assets, child custody, visitation rights, alimony, and child support. Sometimes couples end up arguing over these issues, and stress soon builds to high levels.

When an ex-spouse becomes irrational and impossible to deal with, it may be time to take the issues to a judge. If your ex-wife is harassing you over visitation rights or any other divorce-related issue, you may find it impossible to deal with her. There are many ways you can gain control over the situation to reduce stress and even eliminate arguments entirely.

Here are five tips that will help you take control over your emotions and deal with your ex-wife appropriately.

  • Make the decision to not respond to your ex if she is trying to argue with you. Inform her that you want to have a civilized relationship with her and have made the commitment to do your part to not fuel any fires. 

  • Schedule a time when you and your ex can sit down with a mediator and set agreed child visitation times. Any other issues that are currently being argued about should be brought up so that solutions can be found. Remember, a judge will determine final decisions, but coming to and sticking to an agreement before your court date will definitely help you to gain what you desire in the divorce.

  • Be civilized no matter how irrational your ex might be. Try to remember that your ex-wife may be having troubles dealing with the pain of the separation. Dealing with her in a civilized manner will not only help her to see you want an amiable relationship, it can also serve you better in court. Arguing with your ex and becoming irrational yourself will not help your case. Having a men only divorce attorney in Ft. Lauderdale or at one of our other locations can help you find common ground when dealing with an ex-wife.

  • If your ex will not conform to civility when dealing with you, break all communication with her. Setting it up to communicate with her through her attorney or a neutral party can help eliminate arguments.

  • Stand your ground and never speak negatively about your children’s mother or argue with her in front of them. You will become a super hero to your children by showing their mother respect and kindness, even if she is cruel to you. Children understand a lot more than parents give them credit for, they are also permanently traumatized when parents fight and treat each other horribly.

Hiring the Right Divorce Lawyer                                                       

When dealing with an irrational spouse hiring a Ft. Lauderdale divorce lawyer who represents men only may be the only answer for you. You can also hire a divorce lawyer at one of our other five locations in Florida. Hiring a lawyer who will only represent male clients can help you to find peace of mind and the legal solutions you need when dealing with an irrational ex-wife. Kenny Leigh & Associates has six convenient offices in Jacksonville, Gainesville, Fleming Island, Daytona, Fort Walton Beach, and Boca Raton, serving all of North and South Florida.