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7 Marriage Deal-Breakers No One Should Put Up With

Written by Kenny Leigh | Sun, Dec 01, 2013

People contemplate divorce for many reasons. While couples do not marry looking to get a divorce, situations and people do change, and under many circumstances, divorce becomes an option. Some reasons for divorce are minor and slight, and some reasons are definite marriage deal breakers. The following is a list of potential marriage deal breakers that could lead to divorce. Kenny Leigh and Associates is a trusted family law firm of divorce attorneys for Jacksonville men. Kenny Leigh and Associates has 6 offices in Jacksonville, Daytona, Gainesville, Fleming Island, Fort Walton Beach, and Boca Raton, serving all of North and South Florida.

1. Infidelity.

Infidelity is probably at the top of many people’s list as a definite marriage deal breaker.  Adultery not only betrays the marriage by becoming intimate with someone other than your spouse; it also causes distrust for the other person in all other areas as well. Many people wonder in which other situations their spouse has been dishonest.

2. Abuse.

Abuse is a very common and growing factor in divorces today. Abuse comes in many forms, the main two types being physical and verbal. Professional help should be sought to help a person who is abusive. Studies show that abusers do not change without extensive professional help. If abuse persists after seeking such professional counsel, a divorce may be the only option to escape an abusive situation. If this is true of your spouse, hire a Jacksonville divorce attorney immediately.

3. Drug Use.

Just imagine: You come home after a hard day at work. You put down your keys on the table and your briefcase on the floor. As you shuffle through the mail, you hear a noise coming from the backyard. You know no one should be at home, so you quietly tip-toe through the house to the back door. As you get closer to the door of your patio, you realize that several people are out there. You open the door and are shocked by what you see. You see your wife and few friends all doing drugs. You can’t believe your eyes. How could this going on right under your nose in your own home? You find out that she has been doing drugs the whole time you have been married. Drug abuse is not only unhealthy, but also leads to other discrepancies, such as, stealing, lying, cheating, and abuse of self and others.

4. Gambling.

Excessive gambling can lead a family to financial ruin quickly. People have lost their careers, families, homes, and all other material possessions because of gambling.  Gambling also takes a devastating toll on the family emotionally and socially.

5. Drinking.

Having a social drink every once in a while is not bad, but drinking to the point that it prohibits your ability to function at work and home, or becomes a daily necessity is a deal breaker. Like gambling, it becomes an obsession and will eventually cause the family to face difficult times and unnecessary hardship.

6. Meddling in-laws.

For some, meddling in-laws is not a major issue, but for many it has been a deciding factor in whether to stay in a marriage or not. Meddling in-laws can make a marriage a living hell. The damage that can be done by in-laws can be severe when spouses are struggling to stay together while the in-laws are working on tearing it apart.

7. Selfishness.

How can one live with a selfish individual and have a successful marriage? No one can. Selfishness makes the other person only think about what they want and only about how people are there to meet their needs. Selfishness can also lead to the other deal breakers listed above, because there is no consideration for how others will feel about one’s actions.

Divorce is not something that people look forward to or take lightly. Marriage deal breakers make divorce an option when the other party will not change or seek help. The divorce attorneys at Kenny Leigh and associates have six offices: Jacksonville, Gainesville, Fleming Island, Daytona, Fort Walton Beach, and Boca Raton, and are here to help you make the major decision of divorce less stressful at this difficult time in your life.