A peaceful divorce sounds ironic doesn’t it? Although more than half of U.S. marriages end in divorce, it’s still a nasty process for some couples. The loss, rejection and scary life change can be enough to tear couple apart and cause a significant amount of tension and angst. It doesn’t have to be so hard to part ways. There are steps you can take to ensure a peaceful, calm divorce that will benefit both parties.
Take responsibility for your part
Divorce and separation allows you the time to reflect, often on what you have to look forward to in the future. However, it’s important to look back for a little bit before you can set your eyes on the road ahead. Although it feels more comfortable to put the blame on your partner, it’s worth examining the things you could’ve done differently. In doing so, you’ll lose that “victim-complex” that causes a tremendous amount of angst between two people.Don’t fuel the fire
If you and your partner are not on the same page about letting go peacefully, it often becomes too easy to let her nasty behavior egg you on to say or do something you will regret. Remind yourself that she is probably hurt, rejected, and scared. All of these are natural feelings that are causing her to hate you for putting her in this position. Don’t let her fear rule your emotions. Take a step back, breathe and don’t approach the situation unless you absolutely have to. Jacksonville, Florida is a big city and there are a lot of places to go until enough time has passed that the lines of communication can be re-opened. Click here to learn more about alternative methods of dealing with these issues in a divorce.
Do it for the childrenStriving for a peaceful divorce may seem like a goal of itself, but entice yourself to see it through. If children are involved, keep in mind how the interaction between you and your ex-wife will affect them. Children are more observant that one would want to believe. From snide remarks to eye rolls, children notice it all and take it in.
Don’t let your emotions permanently affect your child’s view on relationships. It’s important to keep your child in mind through the whole process. To do so, avoiding discussing the legalities of the divorce in front of them. Don’t let emotions run too high when your children are in listening distance. Keep calm and always remind yourself that the actions you have today will affect them tomorrow. In fact, among the millions of children who have seen their parents divorce, one of every 10 will also live through three or more parental marriage breakups.
To learn more about setting the stage for a peaceful divorce, contact Kenny Leigh & Associates. Our Jacksonville, Florida, family law firm only works with men. We specialize in helping you get through your divorce quickly and effortlessly.
By Kenny Leigh