The culture of our society would have us believe that many of the myths we have concerning men and divorce are true. However, even though the marriage is over and divorce is imminent, there are many misconceptions about how we perceive the role of a divorced man and his dissolved marriage. The following top six myths concerning divorce in men might provide surprising results.
Myth #1 – Even though divorces usually cause dramatic problems for the children in the marriage that have been affected by his dissolution, overall their issues are not long-lasting and are quickly recoverable.
In reality, children of a divorced couple suffer a greater risk of interpersonal issues that have shown to be very long-lasting and have the ability to become far worse as they enter adulthood.
Myth #2 – Having a child to save a relationship can actually generate marital satisfaction and prevent the divorce.
In reality, it has been shown that couples that conceived children together experience only minimally lower amounts of risk of divorce when compared to couples that do not have children. However, it is far less than when couples followed social norms by staying together for the “sake of the children.”
Myths #3 – When a couple lives together before getting married they can dramatically reduce their chances of ever divorcing.
There are lots of studies indicating that unmarried couples who cohabitate before getting married have higher rates of divorce than those that do not. The higher rates are thought to be a result that couples living together before marriage tends to develop an understanding that a relationship is temporary and can be ended easily.
Myth #4 – For the most part, couples that are married for a second time tend to divorce less often.
In reality, the divorce rate for individuals that have remarried is significantly higher than the rate of first marriages.
Myth #5 – Percentage wise, men tend to initiate divorce proceedings much more than women.
In fact, nearly 67% of all the divorces every year have been initiated by the woman.
Myth #6 – When a married couple does not get along, their children fare better if the parents choose to stay together instead of getting a divorce.
In reality, no one knows for sure. Numerous long-term studies have mixed results. Somehow the parent’s unhappiness tends to have a negative effect on the children although, the divorce does too. Children that are removed from high conflict do tend to fare better overall.
For the most part, these six myths have been determined incapable of standing up to reality.
Myth #1 – Even though divorces usually cause dramatic problems for the children in the marriage that have been affected by his dissolution, overall their issues are not long-lasting and are quickly recoverable.
In reality, children of a divorced couple suffer a greater risk of interpersonal issues that have shown to be very long-lasting and have the ability to become far worse as they enter adulthood.
Myth #2 – Having a child to save a relationship can actually generate marital satisfaction and prevent the divorce.
In reality, it has been shown that couples that conceived children together experience only minimally lower amounts of risk of divorce when compared to couples that do not have children. However, it is far less than when couples followed social norms by staying together for the “sake of the children.”
Myths #3 – When a couple lives together before getting married they can dramatically reduce their chances of ever divorcing.
There are lots of studies indicating that unmarried couples who cohabitate before getting married have higher rates of divorce than those that do not. The higher rates are thought to be a result that couples living together before marriage tends to develop an understanding that a relationship is temporary and can be ended easily.
Myth #4 – For the most part, couples that are married for a second time tend to divorce less often.
In reality, the divorce rate for individuals that have remarried is significantly higher than the rate of first marriages.
Myth #5 – Percentage wise, men tend to initiate divorce proceedings much more than women.
In fact, nearly 67% of all the divorces every year have been initiated by the woman.
Myth #6 – When a married couple does not get along, their children fare better if the parents choose to stay together instead of getting a divorce.
In reality, no one knows for sure. Numerous long-term studies have mixed results. Somehow the parent’s unhappiness tends to have a negative effect on the children although, the divorce does too. Children that are removed from high conflict do tend to fare better overall.
For the most part, these six myths have been determined incapable of standing up to reality.
By Kenny Leigh
